Moving forward is always a good idea…

I was talking to a girlfriend yesterday about some issues she is having with one of her relationships. Why are relationships so difficult at times? After a rather lengthy series of questions, I can’t help it, I am a coach after all, it occurred to me that as long as we keep our focus on the past, we cannot truly move forward. We might be going through the motions, but until we make the commitment to let the past stay in the past, it will continue to have an impact on our future.

Instead of wondering what went wrong or how we got in a not-so-satisfying situation, it is a good practice to recognize that we are where we are and that everything is exactly how it should be for this moment. When we try to retrace our steps we sap all of our energy out of the present moment. Since we can never change the past, it makes sense not to dwell on it too much.

Additionally, if what you think about expands, you probably want to put your attention on something more positive anyway.